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Have you ever made fun of a person for
being gay or for being overly flamboyant? Chances are, everybody has. Gay
bullying is a huge deal. There are so many cases where a gay, lesbian or
bisexual person has been bullied or exposed so much that they were pushed to
the breaking point. Susan Donaldson James from ABCNews.com stated, “Nearly 9 out
of 10 lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender students experienced harassment at
school in the past year, according to GLSEN.” A great percentage of these students
also committed suicide. Will there ever be an end to this cruel and hateful
act? No one should have to go through this type of treatment, homosexual or
heterosexual. We need to take a stand against gay bullying and remind these
teenagers that they have a wonderful life, full of love and happiness ahead of
them. The suicides and bullying rates will never decrease unless we take
action.
Jamey Rodemeyer, an eighth grade student from Buffalo, New York, made a video
telling his viewers that life and all of the bullying get better. He tells his
gay viewers to remain hopeful. In his video, he also quotes Lady Gaga's song
"Born This Way." He says, “All you have to do is hold your head up
and you’ll go far. Just love yourself and you’re set…It gets better."
Unfortunately, it did not get better for this fourteen-year-old kid. He was
found dead by his parents. Dan Savage,
a blogger and co founder of the It Gets Better Project stated, “It sounds like
Jamey had help…but it wasn't enough. Whatever help Jamey was getting clearly
wasn't enough to counteract the hatred…or Jamey's fears of having to face down
a whole new set of bullies when he started high school next year." His video, “It Gets Better, I Promise” is given,
but the embedding seems to be disabled, so it would be helpful to click
here; it will lead you to YouTube.
Jamey’s video was made for the “It Gets
Better” project. According to Dan Savage,
“The point of the ‘It Gets Better’ project is to give kids like Jamey Rodemeyer
hope for their futures.” As a teenager, it is really hard to handle and
shrug off the insults and the hurtful acts done by our enemies, but it is
essential to remain strong. The “It Gets Better” project shows that gay teens
have a great life ahead of them. A writer from ItGetsBetter.org stated, “ItGetsBetter.org is a place where
young people who are lesbian, gay, bi, or trans can see how love and happiness
can be a reality in their future. It’s a place where our straight allies can
visit and support their friends and family members. It’s a place where people
can share their stories…” The site is really inspirational and moving.
My best friend is gay and he has had some very hard
times. He has been teased at school, but the main problem he faces is his
parents. His parents are super Christian, so when he came out to them they did
not handle it well at all. They threw the Bible at him and told him that God
does not love gay people, that who he is was a sin and that he should be
ashamed of himself. His parents went to talk to their priest about “fixing”
him. What is there to fix? There is no
way you can change someone’s sexual orientation. Even though this completely
devastated him, he is one of the strongest people I know. Being around his
parents is definitely hard for him now, but he knows that as time goes on that
they will accept him for who he is. He knows that it will get better.
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Another project that brings awareness to
gay bullying suicide is the “To Write Love on Her Arms” project. “To Write Love
on Her Arms” is a project that gives hope to those who have been bullied and
who struggle with depression and suicide. A writer from the TWLOHA website wrote, “You need to know that rescue is possible...we’re seeing lives change as
people get the help they need...We want to say here that it’s worth it, that
your life is worth fighting for, that it’s possible to change.” Every year at my school on TWLOHA day, my classmates and I would write “Love” or “To Write Love
on Her Arms” on our arms. I am not afraid of showing my passion for the LGBT
community. It feels great to be supporting a cause and letting those who are
hurting know that they are not alone; that they are supported by many people. That
is all we could possibly do. We really cannot stop the bullying, but we can let
the victims know that we will always be there to support them and make them
realize that they are loved and have a great life ahead of them. These websites
that give hope to the LGBT community show that these people are not alone. Many
people are going through the same situations. Seeing how hurt and miserable
these people were, and how they could get back up on their feet, is really
moving to me. The videos bring me hope that there will be a better future for
the victims.
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Most cases of gay bullying occur in schools.
“Multiple studies have evaluated the levels and types of harassment that GLB
youth are subjected to in school settings. Verbal insults and threats are most
frequently reported…” (Mahan, Varjas, Dew, Meyers, Singh, Marshall and Graybill
47). I believe that statement. I hear offense words, such as “fag” used all the
time. A writer from bullyingstatistics.org stated, “According
to recent gay bullying statistics, gay and lesbian teens are two to three times
as more likely to commit teen suicide…Students
who also fall into the gay, bisexual, lesbian or transgendered identity groups
report being five times as more likely to miss school because they feel unsafe
after being bullied…”
Lance Lundsten from Slog |
The high school I went to, Athens High
School, was a very gay friendly school. Bullying happened, but my principal had
a low tolerance of it. My high school also made a Facebook group supporting the
LGBT community. The group is called “AHS SUPPORTS LBGT PEOPLE.” Many people
have posted on the group’s page. They post links to many articles about gay
teen suicide and gay bullying. There are also videos of inspiring people
talking about their experience as gay teens. This link will lead you to the
Facebook group page. Please take a look at the articles and the videos.
One example of the videos that was
posted on the Facebook page was a video that was posted on YouTube a while ago.
This fourteen-year-old boy named Jonah Mowry posted a video about his
experience as an openly gay student. After
he was tormented, he received a lot of support from many people. This support helped
him overcome the bullying; the bullying made him stronger. Apparently most
people thought that he was faking and that his video was not real, but it has
been proven that Jonah was telling the truth. It was proven by ABCNews.com. His
mother commented on his experience and was ashamed that people would question her
son. In the video, he uses cards to communicate while he stars to cry. He tells
us how he has been bullied since the first grade. This video brought tears to
my eyes. Jonah’s video is posted below.
This may come as a shock, but I have two
gay dads. I support them with everything I have love them so much. They have
been together for about two years and it is still hard for them to accept the way
that some people treat them, but I know they are happy and really proud to be
who they are. They live in Nashville, Tennessee. They gave me an article about
a law that prevents bullying in Tennessee. The law proposal has been sent to
the State House and the Senate. David L.
Hudson Jr wrote that, “…the proposed measure…represents an
attempt to protect the rights of students to engage in religious expression,
including a religious viewpoint that homosexuality is wrong.” This will still
obviously allow students to harass the homosexual students. Even though they
are trying to amend the bullying act, it still does not fix the whole problem.
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As a huge supporter of the LGBT
community, I think it is time that the bullying comes to an end. I know that
not everybody is going to accept these groups and that bullying will still
continue, but more people need to take a stand against gay bullying for it to
really come into effect. If we never take a stand, the bullying will never stop.
Bullying can be prevented, but only through action. If you see someone getting
bullied or if you are bullied someone, do not be afraid to tell someone about
it. All you have to do is support the victims and let them know that they are
not alone. Many people will help and do something about it, but the problem has
to be addressed. Remember that if we take a stand, it will get better.
Works Cited
Bishop, Holly N., and Heather Casida. "Preventing
Bullying And Harassment Of Sexual Minority Students In Schools." Clearing House 84.4 (2011): 134-138. Academic Search Complete. Web. 20 Feb. 2012.
Graybill Emily C., et al. "School And Community
Service Providers' Perspectives On Gay, Lesbian And Questioning
Bullying." Journal Of LGBT Issues In Counseling 1.2
(2006): 45-66. Academic Search Complete. Web. 20
Feb. 2012.